A first date is a nerve-wracking experience. That is why so many guys desire quality first date tips. It is often not that a guy can’t figure out the ‘right’ thing to do, but sometimes under heat and pressure of the moment making those ‘right’ moves seem difficult.
“But wait,” you say. Not all women are the same so there will not always be a “right” thing to do. You are correct and you are very wrong. Not all women desire the same things in guys, that is true, but there are some things that almost all women want that is true enough to seem universal.
To start, it’s important that you know how to create sexual tension. This is a feeling a girl has on the first date where she feel’s like thinks simply ‘click’ with a guy. The good news is there are a few ways you can create this emotional state on date.
With that said, here a number of tips that can help get a girl to like you on the first date:
First date grooming standards.
It is true not all women like their men to look the same. Some might like an elegant polished look and some might like a little bit of the unshaven, “bad boy” look. Regardless all women want the men who approach them to be groomed and clean. It is the specifics that only vary. Anyone who smells like a week old sock and looks like they wash their clothes at Grease-Stains-R-Us is going to find themselves very lonely, very quickly.
Well, I am sure anyone reading this does not need to be lectured on grooming standards. None of you need to be hosed down before going into public, do you?
Anyhow, enough of that distraction, let’s get back to the dating tips. My point is that many people think that there are not any real first date tips, but there certainly are.
Perhaps you think the secret to a first date is bringing the woman to a fancy restaurant were showering her with gifts? Again, if you think that you’re also wrong. If successful first date has nothing to do with the fancy expensive restaurant or kissing a girl’s butt! The perfect first date doesn’t take any of those actions. In fact they can decrease your chance of success on the first date. Not to mention wasting your time and energy.
This is in depth article on first date tips. It is not some cheap 300 word regurgitated content article. This article goes in depth in teaching you what you need to know is actually more like a mini report that a simple first date tips article. In this article I shall be covering:
- How to get a girl’s number to set up the first date
- Easy first date ideas and where to take her for the first date
- Some guidelines for successful first date conversation
- General tips for first date
- First date conversation do’s and don’ts
- How to transition from first date to the second date or even possibly to the bedroom
As you can see there’s a lot to cover, so let’s get going…
Setting up the first Date
Setting up the first date is an essential part of the process. Until you have that date all of this information is simply a moot point. So the first thing you need to do is one the best way to get a date with that girl you just met.
The best way to do this is to be like a salesman. Salesman often do something called, “assuming the sale.”
A good salesman has many little tricks to get keep up the buy. Assuming the sale is one of the most powerful of these techniques. When used properly assuming the sale can really be a secret weapon to increasing your chances of setting up dates with hot women. Here’s how it works…
Obviously you are trying to sell her anything. Or are you? In fact you are. You are trying to sell yourself. She has no idea who you are. You could be a lemon or BMW. How is she to know? Assuming the sale is all about using words to assume she already accepts.
I’m sure you’ve seen salesmen do this… “So would you like the extended warrantee or the Limited warranty” is a common sales technique even before somebody has actually agreed to purchase the item. It assumes I guess because the product is “so good” that anybody would be foolish not to accept.
When you assume the “date” with a girl you do the same thing. After talking to a girl for a bit and hopefully gaining some sort of attraction from her you ask her out on a date. But you don’t do it in a hesitating manner. Do it in a way that assumes she will say yes. Not only does the schema psychological advantage but also shows you are extremely confident. Something that women love. To get her to accept your first date proposal try assuming the date like this:
“I’ve loved talking to you this evening. You are a lot of fun. Let’s go out this next weekend, what day is better for you Friday or Saturday?”
After you asked this question is important just to look at her and await a response. She may not say anything for a while awaiting sign of weakness. If you look away, look embarrassed or talk first after this you have failed. She must be the one to reply. If she says she’s not interested in a date with you chances are you’ve read your signals wrong and she is really simply not interested in you. If she is interested although posing the question this manner will bring about you most likely chance for success.
Once you said yes to the date try to get her phone number but also “assuming the date”. Try to get her number by assuming the date in a fashion like this:
“Great, we will go out ________. I will call you in a couple days to confirm the plans. Which number to want to give me your cell or your home number?”
This is a tactic that is sure to get you a lot more first dates than any other hesitant and scared approach. It takes a fair amount of confidence or at least pretending to have confidence to do it. But when done properly assuming the date(sale) is simply one of the best first date tips you can imagine.
Simply put, to get a girl’s attention she needs to feel attraction.
First Date Ideas
A successful first date with a girl is not about spending a lot of money. If all she wants from you are expensive gifts and fancy meals then let me clue you in on something… She does not like you, she likes your money.
Honestly though, most women are not like that. The guys looks and/or finances matter… but only in the most minor way. Women are far more interested with the guy that is confident, self-assured and fun.
So rather than blowing, money and still creating an uncomfortable situation for your first date want to focus on things that matter, like making sure your date is both enjoyable and low key. That is the key to a great first date. You want the date to be memorable, fun and establish some sort of connection between you and the girl.
Here are few general ideas for great first date:
First date idea #1- Meet for coffee or drinks
This powerful first date idea is pretty standard. Yet still very effective.
When you meet a girl for coffee or drinks it gives you a chance to talk in a very casual manner. It has far less pressure than sitting facing each other from across the table at fancy restaurants. Since confidence is important part of a good first date it gives you a chance to get a lot more comfortable with the girl and therefore seem far more confident rather than putting too much strain too fast on yourself.
Even better it is also situation that you can begin to establish physical contact. Meeting the girl for coffee or drinks on your first date means that you’re able to do a little bit of flirting and insert some steps to help build attraction during your conversation. These little initial steps towards attraction go a long way towards building a hopefully lasting an intimate relationship.
First date idea #2- Play Games
By playing games I did not mean play some sort of mind games with the girl. I mean what it sounds like, play actual games. Take her to miniature golf, the Boardwalk, a pool hall, a video arcade or anywhere where there are games to be played.
There should be little pressure to be ”fun” on this date because the venue itself should provide a fair amount of fun. This takes a lot of pressure off of you on the first date. You get to enjoy your time with our be a little competitive and hopefully approach her in a playful slightly teasing manner thereby heightening her attraction.
First date idea #3-Get Physical
I’m not talking about sex. At least not yet.
I’m talking but doing actual physical activity. This one can depend upon the girl. Doing a physical activity is not for all girls. But many, if not most, of them will enjoy some sort of physical activity for a date. For great first date activity try to take the girl on a hike, ice-skating, rollerblading or even a nice walk along the beach or through a park. These physical activities can often be a least expensive and the most rewarding ways to have a great first date.
The First Date Rules
Once you’re on the first date there are a few unwritten rules you should follow. None of these are set in stone, there may certainly be reasons to break down and be correct in doing so, but as a rule of thumb you would be wise to follow all of these first date tips.
First Date Rule #1- Remove all expectations and concerns from the date
The biggest thing most guys do wrong is simply worrying about trying to be too perfect. I will admit it is very important to make a good first impression. But when you worry too much about every single word or action you actually work against making a good pressure. By trying to be perfect you seem to be more indecisive and controlling. A bad combination.
Put a first date is proper place. If you followed my previous instructions you’re not spending too much money on the date. If it goes badly you’ve only wasted little bit of time and money. And if it goes well you have a wonderful time and a great woman to take out on future dates.
Don’t worry about which one of these will be. Go out and try to have fun. Be enjoyable and energetic. If you in the girl do not match, do not worry about it, try again with another girl.
By relaxing and not worrying about the outcome of the date you’re actually able to converse much more healthy and casual manner in your confidence will seems far higher than if you worry over every little bit of conversation. A first date will either work or it won’t work, there’s no way to try to force it.
First Date Rule #2- Limit your Time
guys who try to plan out a lab or it can complicated first dates that a girl will remember forever is almost dooming himself to failure. You should never approach a date thinking that this is going to be something that your future wife is going to be talking about 20 years down the line at your anniversary. Those stores will build themselves. This is the reality. You may have hundreds of first dates before you find the “right” woman for you.
The purpose of the first date is not to create some romantic “Cinderella” type atmosphere and sweep a woman off her feet. The purpose is to prove to her that you are somebody that she wants to spend time with and for her to spend enough time with you to know whether you wish to spend more time with her. That is it.
A first date should be simple and relatively short.
Your best first date should be something low key and fun and only lasting for a limited period of time. This way you do not waste too much of your time and money and neither does she.
If the date is going well many guys will think that is exception to this rule, and will want to pile on more events. This is also wrong. By leaving her after the date that has been going very well you create a situation where she wants to see you again. That is very important. If you give her too much time she can actually begin to get a little bit bored with you and leave with some negative feelings rather than more positive feelings. Any great actor or any decent “dater” should always know to leave them wanting more.
First Date Rule #3 Have fun and Flirt
Your first date may be short but you want to pack a lot into it. One of the most important things to make sure that is included in your date are chances the build a rapport with the woman.
Here’s why building a rapport and flirting with the woman is essential…
If there is not attraction on a date, it will go nowhere. She may like you, but not ”like” you. That is the horrible, “friend” zone. Where she likes you as a person but there is absolutely zero sexual attraction between the two. Often this comes from your initial contact going the wrong way. Rather than flirting and starting things on the path towards a sexual basis you try to be too nice and any relationship ended up on a purely, “friend” basis.
Try treating all women like your bratty little sister. Teasing her just a little bit, but showing that there is affection behind the teasing. This will make a woman feel you have a lot of confidence and also put her in a position where she slightly wants to impress you. Just remember that there is a fine line between “teasing” and “making fun” of the girl.
Well that has been a lot of First date information for you. I’m only halfway done with these first date tips that I should give you a break now to digest what you’ve read.
Next week I shall have part two of the first date tips posted. In that post you shall learn:
- What is the “next” step on first dates
- Making things sexual
- How to transition to another date
- How to tell is she has enjoyed your date
Learning these first date tips is a big part of the battle for success with attraction women. But it is only part of the battle. First Impressions do mean a lot and getting that instant attraction from women will make the whole first date go even smoother.
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