Learning how to sweet talk girls can be something that is pretty frustrating if you are not a guy who is glib and at ease with yourself.  You may have a constant case of “foot in mouth” disease and always find the wrong thing to say at the wrong time.

I understand that certain things are not going to work with every girl and you should too. There really are no two girls that are alike but most girls want the same thing. Most girls want some form of love and attention. If you can give them these things or at least the feeling of these things they will be melting like putty in your hands. Let’s now go on to talk about what to say to girls.

Many people are going to tell you that talking to women is complex.  They want to make some coplex quadratic equation out of something that is inherently simple, to make themselves seem superior.  But it is not.  Sweet talking girls is not that complicated. Once you learn a few simple things you are going to be able to talk to any girl and say the things that she wants to hear.

The first thing that you need to do when you are talking to a girl is to find out what her likes and dislikes are. You don’t have to get anything real specific but you can usually tell pretty soon if she is in it for a long-term relationship, friendship or a short dating period etc. All you have to do is find out what she wants and then talk yourself up in those areas.

For instance, if a girl is interested in a guy that is exciting and adventurous you could tell her about all of the fun things that you have done and then invite her on an outing with you or you and some friends. Feel her out a little bit and find out how interested she is before you ask her on a one on one date.

If a girl is interested in a long-term relationship you may want to talk about commitment that you have to… pretty much anything. You can say you’ve had you dog, car or friend or x amount of years and it will be a check mark in the good pile because she thinks that you are steady and stable.

There are a lot of different factors that women use to weed out guys and the worst thing that you could possibly do would be to try to say some corny, cheesy line. You need to be genuine and tell her things that are true and that are believable. You shouldn’t tell her things like “Baby you’re so fine I would fly you to the moon.” That may work on some very desperate girls but anyone else is just going to laugh in your face.

Being on a date with a girl can give you a little more give and take. If you are in a romantic setting it is much more likely she is going to be receptive of sweet things that you have to say.

You should pay close attention to her and notice things that you truly like about her. Does she have a cute giggle? Does she take time and care styling her hair? Does have a nice rack. Does she say something constantly that you think is cute? It is important you pick out something endearing to focus on and compliment her on it.  As I hope you notice from the strikeout, this should not be a physical attribute generally.  If it is you need to phrase it in a way that compliments her.  Don’t compliment her on having a “hot body“.  Tell her she looks amazing in what she is wearing and ask her questions about her workout routine is she seems very physically fit.

If you notice there is something that she is insecure about you should give it a positive spin and tell her that you find it attractive or cute so that she will be more comfortable with you.  It is all about talking about the her good points that you notice, but it is important that they be things she has control over.  Even something like “you have nice eyes”  isn’t as good as telling her that her clothing or makeup MAKES her eyes eyes stand out.

Now you know a little bit more about how to sweet talk girls. You will be able to get a much better response from women.

This is a generalization, of course.  But it makes good sense.

An attraction technique that might work like a champ with one woman, may leave another cold, or even worse pissed off.

Some things, like having confidence and understanding the subtleties of Instant Sexual Attraction , work on almost all women to a degree.  But there are certainly tons of moves that will work for Girl A but not for Girl B.

1. So what are these 8 different types of women?
2. What is the Pandora’s Box System of Attraction?
3. How can you use it the Pandora’s Box system to attract women?

In this Pandora’s Box System Review I shall attempt to answer these three questions.

Of course you could also jump ahead and watch this Pandora’s Box System Video

Why I am Writing a Pandora’s Box Review:

Underground attraction has written over 60 articles on attracting women, dating tips, getting a girlfriend, female psychology and much more.  In all of the posts so far, we have not done one single product review.

There are many products out there in the female attraction niche that are worth your time and investment.  Some of them have really unique and individual ideas, others are only good if you have not read other -similar- content.

So why write one now?

The reason is simple.  I believe in the Pandora’s Box System.

I think there is a ton of value in this system.  Specifically for someone who is new to the attracting women field.  Some of the advanced PUA’s might find some parts of the guides that they have seen before.  There will be parts that are surely familiar to the expert.  The key is that even the stuff that is familiar is presented in a new light.

Not only does it have tried and tested methods, but the system find ways to improve these methods.  A hard thing to do… and reason enough to write a Pandora’s Box System Review

-But I get ahead of myself-

What is the Pandora’s Box System of Attraction?

Pandora’s Box is a system of attracting women created by noted Pick up Artist (PUA) Vin DiCarlo.  If you do not know who Vin is go ahead and Google his name.  He is an internationally renowned dating coach.  He is a guy who the experts go to for THEIR expert advice.

He is not some guy who just fell off the turnip truck with some slip-shod half-assed product.  He is a guy who has game and the willingness to share it with others.

He may have forgotten more about attracting women, than 95% male population of the world even knows.

Okay!  Enough about Vin, though.  What is Pandora’s Box all about?

The basic concept of Pandora’s Box is simple.  It supposes that all women fall into one of eight different types of women.  By figuring out which of these categories of women the girl you are interested in falls into, you can immediately know what she will like and want.

You see I talk about it all the time.  There is an instant sexual attraction that you can get from women.  This is something that goes beyond her “intellectual” attraction.  It is something that is almost primal in nature.  The girl may not even understand WHY she is drawn to someone, but there are deep psychological reasons why she is drawn to specific types of men.

The secret of Pandora’s Box is that it understands this and acts on it.  There are little cues.  SOme of them quite subtle that individually can be used to attract women.  But remember what works on Girl A, may have the opposite effect on Girl B.  Pandora’s box acts as the score card to let you know all the differences and nuances for attracting women.

But there is more to the Pandora’s Box System of Attraction:

There is also a hefty attraction strategy guide.  This is the part where the experts may yawn (but still perhaps find some nuggets) but for the newer user, this section alone is worth the price of admittance.

Finally there is the all-important guide to discovering which categories a woman falls into.

If you think this is going to be a long complicated process involving statistics and calculus; think again.

Blissfully the way to figure out the “type of women” is very simple and strait-forward.  All it takes are a series of questions designed to quickly and and innocuously puts the woman into one of the 8 general types.

Seriously, you can have a woman “typed” in as little as 3 innocent questions.

Perhaps as little as one minute and you can begin to utilize some of the advanced techniques.

What are these 8 different types of women?

You may not know you know them, but chances are if you think hard enough you can probably figure out more than a few women that fill these roles.

The basic 8 different types of women are:

• The Playette
• The Hopeless Romantic
• The Seductress
• The Connoisseur
• The Modern Woman
• The Social Butterfly
• The Cinderella
• The Private Dancer

Think about the women you know and have dated.  I am sure, even without knowing the system you can think of a few, Social Butterflies, Cinderallas, Hopeless Romantics and Modern Women.  If you have one category you can place a few women in think about the similarities these women have?

Have you seen them date a fair amount of guys you might consider a “type”?

Chances are you have.  Remember the reason for this is the uncontrollable sexual attraction women feel toward some of the little things guys do.  Wouldn’t it be great if you knew in advance those little cues and you could give her what she wanted?

<<<<—-Find out more about the 8 types of women and Pandora’s Box System —–>>>>>

Knowledge is power.  And Pandora’s Box can give you some powerful knowledge about women.

How can you use it the Pandora’s Box system to attract women?

Of course knowledge only goes so far.  At times you need to shit-or-get-off-the-pot.  This of course is the key.  Pandora’s box isn’t a system that only looks good on paper, but falls apart when you try to implement it in the real world.  (Have you ever seen a 40 year old guy at a club going a little wild with “Peacocking“… scary stuff)

Pandora’s Box works.

The implementation of the 8 types works, and even if it didn’t (for the guy new to PUA) the strategy guide is chocked full actionable tips that work on all women to some degree.  Certain methods simply work -better- when you apply them to the right, “type” of women.

Let’s look at where Pandora’s Box system is particularly potent.

Guy new to PUA: I have beat this to death.  But for anyone new this system is a great starting point.

Have a particular girl in mind: If you have a specific girl in mind, you likely already have an idea of her type.  This guide lets you pull out all the stops and give you the absolute best chance of attracting a specific girl you desire.

Blindly meeting women: If you approach a girl in club or bar situation it can be perilous.  You want to get her attracted and you need to do it quickly or your opportunity is often lost.  From the strategy guide to the specific types of women Pandora’s Box is chocked full of tips to help you along on this.

Final Pandora’s Box Review:

I give Pandora’s Box System 9 out of 10 stars. **********

It doesn’t have everything.  Even the very best products have a few small gaps, but it is hard to find anything better out there, and I have looked.

They expert may find some of the information repetitive.  The system does little to help the guy who boost that initial self-confidence issue many guys deal with when trying to approach women.

It is not a “perfect” system designed for every single guy in the world; but nothing out there is.

Pandora’s Box is well worth your time and effort.  It is a great system that will teach most guys a lot, to spite the few flaws that it does have.

Find out more about ——>>>>>Pandora’s Box System of Attraction

Maybe you are having some decent success with your methods but you are interested in raising the bar a little bit so that you can drive women crazy.

Many men don’t there are special attraction switches that can actually allow them to drive the ladies absolutely wild.

THE best way to heighten her level of desire is to know what sexually pleases here.  This is what you’ll learn in this article.

Amplify Sexual Tension When increasing sexual desire in women it’s important that you focus on sexual tension. There is no need to pussyfoot around. You should start to tease and establish a playful touch. Make her wonder what you are thinking and what you are going to do next. You have to make her want you to touch her again.

This cat and mouse game can really drive her crazy and have the sexual tension through the roof. It is not as hard as you would think to create this tension. You just need to know how to do it.

Understand What SHE Wants Some girls like guys that operate in different ways.There are the fast girls that want to have a big kiss that rushes in at them and holds them tight.

Other girls are interested in a kiss that softly brushes against this lips and then comes in to a more intense kiss. Make sure you know what she wants when you are thinking about increasing sexual desire in women. If you do the wrong thing you could really put a damper on the evening and leave both of you feel unsatisfied and wishing that something else would have happened.

Display Hyper-Masculine Qualities- There are certain qualities that women find naturally attractive in a man.  These are the traits which have created desire for thousands of years.

When dealing with a girl, try to show the following “alpha” qualities:

• Leadership
• Confidence
• Humor
• High-status
• Calmness during stress
• Empathy

This is a long-list of attributes.  But they’re important to learn!  You’ll find that women want to be with men…who act like men!

Cap Sexual Desire with a Kiss Some guys make a big mistake and sloppily go in for the first kiss. This could be a total disaster. Some guys get a total rejection by head turn which can really hurt a guy’s confidence, others may get slapped or rejected in another way.

The best thing that you can do is build anticipation for the kiss. You can do this through your conversation, through your body language and through gentle and caring touches. Make sure you do not creep her out by moving too quickly. Make her wonder if you are going to kiss her or not and make her want you to kiss her before you go in for the kiss.

Increase Sexual Desire through Attraction Getting a girl to want you is done through attraction.  You have to amplify her feelings by displaying qualities that increase her overall interest.

Don’t let be misled about what women want. There is a blueprint for skyrocketing a girl’s interest.  Click the above link to learn how to make a girl sexually attracted to you.

In this article we are going to talk about what to do on the second date.  IN some ways the 2nd date may be more important than the first.  But the good news is, that it is easier than the first date, and every subsequent date gets a little bit easier.

Next, I urge you to check out the previous two first date articles to refresh what you’ve learned about dating:

First Date Tips- Part I - General Tips, First date location ideas, First date rules, developing rapport

First Date Tips- Part II – What is “Next” on the first date, Making Things Sexual, Transitioning to a second date.

Well, you HAVE a second date, so it couldn’t have been all bad.  Hopefully you have planted the seeds of attraction and begun to build a small amount of sexual tension.  Also it is hopeful that both of you had a good enough time to make a second date worthwhile.

If the two of you didn’t, “click” and you are giving it “another chance I either advise against it… or recommend you treat it like ANOTHER first date.  Keep it short and see if there is something there.

What to do on a 2nd Date In fact many of the traits for a second date are just like the first, except more of it.  You can get a little, “fancier” where you take her.  You should still plan on the date being “relatively” short, but longer than the first.  You should try to build a little more romance and sexual tension, but you shouldn’t “count” on the girl sleeping with you at the end of the evening.

Climbing the 2nd date Mountain The second date in some ways is may favorite.  It shows all of the potential promise of a relationship.  It is like standing at the bottom of a mountain.  There is a lot of climbing ahead of you, there are certainly dangers and ways to trip up and get hurt, but there is so much potential.

Your goal on the second date is to climb that mountain a little bit.  Increase attraction.  Find out more about her.  Remember to use your active listening on her.  Bring a little bit of your seduction game, but it is not necessary to push for the summit in one night.

2nd Date Tips Many guys are scared of the 2nd date, and try to act as if it were the 1^st date.  Unless you are only giving it “one last shot” after a horrible first date, and stressing on the 2nd date sounds like you, then you need to calm down.

If the girl is going on the 2nd date, it means that they like you and wanted to see you again. You should not stress out so much thinking about 2^nd date tips. Let’s go on and look at what to do on a 2^nd date.

This is a great time to get to know each other more and talk but you need to remember that this is just the 2^nd time that you are getting together. This date should be longer than the first, but not too long. Maybe you can just spend a few hours together in a semi-casual setting.

One thing that is essential is to leave the past in the past. Talking about ex boyfriends and girlfriends is always a bummer and could make people very uncomfortable. Besides for that they may start wondering why the other person left you and if you are really a loser packaged is a nice package.

Keeping the past in the past is always the best policy.  Crying in your beer about your last girlfriend may be one of the few cardinal sins of the 2nd date.

Second Dates and Sex Talk Sex talk is not good when it comes to 2^nd dates.  A lot of this depends on still letting a woman. “set the pace.”  If she gives indications that she is ready for more sexual tension and flirting, feel free, but at this point the part you should do is pretty simple.  You should ramp up sexual tension, but not try to be overtly, sexual.

As far as 2nd date tips go.  I return to my “mountain” analogy.  You do not need to reach the “peak” in one night.  Many mountaineers die because they did not have just a little bit of patience. If you start talking and hinting heavily about sex this soon you may find that your date thinks you are easy or a horn dog. You can wait a little while for the sex talk, right?

If your first date was uncomfortable and your second one is feeling uncomfortable as well you may find that it is a good idea to just end it here. Whenever you are nervous on the 1^st date that is one thing but if you are still uncomfortable you shouldn’t put yourself through anymore pain. Just let them go.

2nd Date etiquette Opening up is good 2^nd date etiquette. You should tell them a little bit about what you think of them and try to get some feedback from them as well. You could tell them that you find them very attractive and that you enjoy their company. See if they respond is a positive manner. If they do you will be able to speak further about your feelings but make sure that you do not go too far or you might scare them off. Your goal is to make them want to see you again, not to make them want to run away screaming.

Another thing that you may consider talking about is what you expect out of a relationship. You should set some firm boundaries that should not be crossed and see if they have a problem with those. If they do then they most likely were not the one that you are supposed to be going for anymore. You should never settle for someone that does not agree with some things that you consider very important.

These 2nd date tips should be very helpful to you when it comes to the 2nd date etiquette. You really just need to relax and be yourself as you are dating this person. There is no need to stress yourself. If it is meant to be then it will happen. Preparing is a great idea to make sure that a date goes great but you should make sure you are not too stiff.

If you wonder what to do on a 2nd date just think… a little bit more.  You are still getting in the “getting to know you” phase.  Try not to come on too hot and heavy unless she leads the way.  Besides that just work to create a more comfortable vibe between you and her.

You shouldn’t feel bad if you do not know how to sexually arouse a woman. Men often have a difficult time trying to figure out women. Women are very complex creatures that seem almost evasive when it comes to letting men into their thought process.

To start, arousal starts with foreplay.  This is that important sensation that leads up to orgasm.

Now..let’s take a look at 5 top tips to turn her on.

Number 1 – Keep The Conversation Light: If you want to know how to sexually arouse a woman the first thing that you need to think about is keeping the conversation light. If you start talking about things that are depressing or boring you are going to suck the sexual tension right out of the air. You want to create sexual tension, not kill it.

You should design your conversation with the women to be enjoyable and fun. Coming on too strong or too serious too fast only works against you for increasing her attraction.

Number 2 – Have Good Posture: A woman likes a guy that knows how to carry himself. You should pay close attention to the way that you sit. You should take up lots of space. A man that takes up lots of space is more attractive than a guy that cowers in the corner looking like a whipped puppy dog. Taking up more room also makes you look like you are in control and that you know what you want and what you are doing. Keep your shoulders back and your head held high. Do not slouch in the corner or look like you’ve been thrown there like a rag doll either because this is not attractive.

This is a subtle way to appear to be an Alpha male, or at least have some alpha tendencies. Women do not care about money, or looks, but they want their man to be confident and in control. The appearance and proper posture of a man is therefore and essential tip to turning her on.

Number 3 – Have A Good Attitude: If you want to know how to sexually arouse a woman you need to make sure that you have the right attitude. You need to be a positive high status guy. You shouldn’t act like anything is bothering you, life is good. When you do this she is going to feel safe and think that you know what you are doing. This is very attractive to women and can help to build the sexual tension. Positive people attractive positive reactions from other people if you will pay attention to how life works you will see that this is true.

Number 4 – Pace Physical Interaction: One thing that will turn a girl off very quickly is a guy that is pawing all over her like some horny teen meeting a firl for the first time. You might think about touching her on the arm or the hand whenever you are making a point or something like that but other than that you really need to take it slow until you see that she is ready to move with you. When you touch her you should see what her reaction is before you move on anything further.

Number 5 – Tease Her Now make sure that you do not take this one overboard and become some sort of jerk. When you tease the girl that you like you do not want to be mean about it or anything. You can just be cute. You could tease her about wearing a really girly t-shirt or about the sports team that she likes. Once again it is important that you keep it light. Teasing is a great way to really make a girl laugh and have a good time as long as you do not over do it. Always make sure that she is having a good time when you are teasing her. If she isn’t you need to quickly back up and try another path.

Now you know some of the basics about how to sexually arouse a woman. It may be time to step up your game from these basics.

“But wait,” you say.  Not all women are the same so there will not always be a “right” thing to do.  You are correct and you are very wrong.  Not all women desire the same things in guys, that is true, but there are some things that almost all women want that is true enough to seem universal.

To start, it’s important that you know how to create sexual tension.  This is a feeling a girl has on the first date where she feel’s like thinks simply ‘click’ with a guy.  The good news is there are a few ways you can create this emotional state on date.

With that said, here a number of tips that can help get a girl to like you on the first date:

First date grooming standards.

It is true not all women like their men to look the same.  Some might like an elegant polished look and some might like a little bit of the unshaven, “bad boy” look.  Regardless all women want the men who approach them to be groomed and clean.  It is the specifics that only vary.  Anyone who smells like a week old sock and looks like they wash their clothes at Grease-Stains-R-Us is going to find themselves very lonely, very quickly.

Well, I am sure anyone reading this does not need to be lectured on grooming standards.  None of you need to be hosed down before going into public, do you?

Anyhow, enough of that distraction, let’s get back to the dating tips.  My point is that many people think that there are not any real first date tips, but there certainly are.

Perhaps you think the secret to a first date is bringing the woman to a fancy restaurant were showering her with gifts?  Again, if you think that you’re also wrong. If successful first date has nothing to do with the fancy expensive restaurant or kissing a girl’s butt!  The perfect first date doesn’t take any of those actions. In fact they can decrease your chance of success on the first date.  Not to mention wasting your time and energy.

This is in depth article on first date tips. It is not some cheap 300 word regurgitated content article.  This article goes in depth in teaching you what you need to know is actually more like a mini report that a simple first date tips article.  In this article I shall be covering:

• How to get a girl’s number to set up the first date
• Easy first date ideas and where to take her for the first date
• Some guidelines for successful first date conversation
• General tips for first date
• First date conversation do’s and don’ts
• How to transition from first date to the second date or even possibly to the bedroom

As you can see there’s a lot to cover, so let’s get going…

Setting up the first Date

Setting up the first date is an essential  part of the process.  Until you have that date all of this information is simply a moot point.  So the first thing you need to do is one the best way to get a date with that girl you just met.

The best way to do this is to be like a salesman.  Salesman often do something called, “assuming the sale.”

A good salesman has many little tricks to get keep up the buy.  Assuming the sale is one of the most powerful of these techniques. When used properly assuming the sale can really be a secret weapon to increasing your chances of setting up dates with hot women.  Here’s how it works…

Obviously you are trying to sell her anything. Or are you? In fact you are. You are trying to sell yourself.  She has no idea who you are.  You could be a lemon or BMW.  How is she to know?  Assuming the sale is all about using words to assume she already accepts.

I’m sure you’ve seen salesmen do this…  “So would you like the extended warrantee or the Limited warranty” is a common sales technique even before somebody has actually agreed to purchase the item.  It assumes I guess because the product is “so good” that anybody would be foolish not to accept.

When you assume the “date” with a girl you do the same thing.  After talking to a girl for a bit and hopefully gaining some sort of attraction from her you ask her out on a date.  But you don’t do it in a hesitating manner. Do it in a way that assumes she will say yes. Not only does the schema psychological advantage but also shows you are extremely confident. Something that women love.  To get her to accept your first date proposal try assuming the date like this:

“I’ve loved talking to you this evening.  You are a lot of fun.  Let’s go out this next weekend, what day  is better for you Friday or Saturday?”

After you asked this question is important just to look at her and await a response. She may not say anything for a while awaiting sign of weakness. If you look away, look embarrassed or talk first after this you have failed. She must be the one to reply.  If she says she’s not interested in a date with you chances are you’ve read your signals wrong and she is really simply not interested in you.  If she is interested although posing the question this manner will bring about you most likely chance for success.

Once you said yes to the date try to get her phone number but also “assuming the date”.  Try to get her number by assuming the date in a fashion like this:

“Great, we will go out ________.  I will call you in a couple days to confirm the plans. Which number to want to give me your cell or your home number?”

This is a tactic that is sure to get you a lot more first dates than any other hesitant and scared approach. It takes a fair amount of confidence or at least pretending to have confidence to do it. But when done properly assuming the date(sale) is simply one of the best first date tips you can imagine.

Simply put, to get a girl’s attention she needs to feel attraction.   

First Date Ideas

A successful first date with a girl is not about spending a lot of money. If all she wants from you are expensive gifts and fancy meals then let me clue you in on something… She does not like you, she likes your money.

Honestly though, most women are not like that.  The guys looks and/or finances matter… but only in the most minor way.  Women are far more interested with the guy that is confident, self-assured and fun.

So rather than blowing, money and still creating an uncomfortable situation for your first date want to focus on things that matter, like making sure your date is both enjoyable and low key.  That is the key to a great first date. You want the date to be memorable, fun and establish some sort of connection between you and the girl.

Here are few general ideas for great first date:

First date idea #1- Meet for coffee or drinks

This powerful first date idea is pretty standard. Yet still very effective.

When you meet a girl for coffee or drinks it gives you a chance to talk in a very casual manner. It has far less pressure than sitting facing each other from across the table at fancy restaurants. Since confidence is important part of a good first date it gives you a chance to get a lot more comfortable with the girl and therefore seem far more confident rather than putting too much strain too fast on yourself.

Even better it is also situation that you can begin to establish physical contact. Meeting the girl for coffee or drinks on your first date means that you’re able to do a little bit of flirting and insert some steps to help build attraction during your conversation.  These little initial steps towards attraction go a long way towards building a hopefully lasting an intimate relationship.

First date idea #2- Play Games

By playing games I did not mean play some sort of mind games with the girl.  I mean what it sounds like, play actual games.  Take her to miniature golf, the Boardwalk,  a pool hall, a video arcade or anywhere where there are games to be played.

There should be little pressure to be ”fun” on this date because the venue itself should provide a fair amount of fun. This takes a lot of pressure off of you on the first date.  You get to enjoy your time with our be a little competitive and hopefully approach her in a playful slightly teasing manner thereby heightening her attraction.

First date idea #3-Get Physical

I’m not talking about sex. At least not yet.

I’m talking but doing actual physical activity. This one can depend upon the girl. Doing a physical activity is not for all girls. But many, if not most, of them will enjoy some sort of physical activity for a date.  For great first date activity try to take the girl on a hike, ice-skating, rollerblading or even a nice walk along the beach or through a park.  These physical activities can often be a least expensive and the most rewarding ways to have a great first date.

The First Date Rules

Once you’re on the first date there are a few unwritten rules you should follow.  None of these are set in stone, there may certainly be reasons to break down and be correct in doing so, but as a rule of thumb you would be wise to follow all of these first date tips.

First Date Rule #1- Remove all expectations and concerns from the date

The biggest thing most guys do wrong is simply worrying about trying to be too perfect.  I will admit it is very important to make a good first impression.  But when you worry too much about every single word or action you actually work against making a good pressure.  By trying to be perfect you seem to be more indecisive and controlling.  A bad combination.

Put a first date is proper place. If you followed my previous instructions you’re not spending too much money on the date. If it goes badly you’ve only wasted little bit of time and money. And if it goes well you have a wonderful time and a great woman to take out on future dates.

Don’t worry about which one of these will be.  Go out and try to have fun.  Be enjoyable and energetic.  If you in the girl do not match, do not worry about it, try again with another girl.

By relaxing and not worrying about the outcome of the date you’re actually able to converse much more healthy and casual manner in your confidence will seems far higher than if you worry over every little bit of conversation. A first date will either work or it won’t work, there’s no way to try to force it.

First Date Rule #2- Limit your Time

guys who try to plan out a lab or it can complicated first dates that a girl will remember forever is almost dooming himself to failure.  You should never approach a date thinking that this is going to be something that your future wife is going to be talking about 20 years down the line at your anniversary.  Those stores will build themselves.  This is the reality.  You may have hundreds of first dates before you find the “right” woman for you.

The purpose of the first date is not to create some romantic “Cinderella” type atmosphere and sweep a woman off her feet.  The purpose is to prove to her that you are somebody that she wants to spend time with and for her to spend enough time with you to know whether you wish to spend more time with her.  That is it.

A first date should be simple and relatively short.

Your best first date should be something low key and fun and only lasting for a limited period of time. This way you do not waste too much of your time and money and neither does she.

If the date is going well many guys will think that is exception to this rule, and will want to pile on more events.  This is also wrong.  By leaving her after the date that has been going very well you create a situation where she wants to see you again. That is very important.  If you give her too much time she can actually begin to get a little bit bored with you and leave with some negative feelings rather than more positive feelings.  Any great actor or any decent “dater” should always know to leave them wanting more.

First Date Rule #3  Have fun and Flirt

Your first date may be short but you want to pack a lot into it.  One of the most important things to make sure that is included in your date are chances the build a rapport with the woman.

Here’s why building a rapport and flirting with the woman is essential…

If there is not attraction on a date, it will go nowhere.  She may like you, but not ”like” you.  That is the horrible, “friend” zone.  Where she likes you as a person but there is absolutely zero sexual attraction between the two.  Often this comes from your initial contact going the wrong way.  Rather than flirting and starting things on the path towards a sexual basis you try to be too nice and any relationship ended up on a purely, “friend” basis.

Try treating all women like your bratty little sister. Teasing her just a little bit, but showing that there is affection behind the teasing.  This will make a woman feel you have a lot of confidence and also put her in a position where she slightly wants to impress you. Just remember that there is a fine line between “teasing” and “making fun” of the girl.  

Well that has been a lot of First date information for you.  I’m only halfway done with these first date tips that I should give you a break now to digest what you’ve read.

Next week I shall have part two of the first date tips posted.  In that post you shall learn:

• What is the “next” step on first dates
• Making things sexual
• How to transition to another date
• How to tell is she has enjoyed your date

Learning these first date tips is a big part of the battle for success with attraction women.  But it is only part of the battle.  First Impressions do mean a lot and getting that instant attraction from women will make the whole first date go even smoother.

It isn’t the first and it isn’t likely to be the last.

The reason for this is simple….  It is a really important topic. 

All women look for some general things from men.  There are of course many specific ways you can boost attraction with specific women with specific cue, but isn’t it nice to know what women are “generally” looking for.

-Of Course-

Now the top ten things women find attractive in men is not rocket science.  Chances are if you think about it the reasons behind all of these are very clear.  You may not realize you new that these are true.  but if you stop and think about it for a second you will probably see from your own experiences and observations how true they really are.

Without further ado, the top ten things women find attractive in men:

1.  Confidence: Sometimes I feel like a broken record on this topic, but there is nothing women find more attractive than a confident man.  Nothing!

2.  High Status: All women want to be special.  They want their guy to be someone important.  A mover and shaker.   It is fine to have the “potential” to be high status, but a woman can see from interactions with your friends.  Are you a mover and shaker going places or a n’er do well happy to live in his parents basement.  Girls want to feel that their guy is someone special.

3.  Hardworking: Along with high status (or the potential for it) comes being hardworking.  She may not like it when you are away working too often, but she can appreciate the effort.  being hardworking will often lead to success in many fields and show her you have the extra needed “oompfh” to become high status.

4.  Fun attitude: Here we are four items into what women find attractive in men and for we have the FIRST one that relates to how YOU are with HER.

5.  The little things: There are so many little things here to talk about.  There really is neither the room nor the time to go into them.  Suffice to say that what every girl will look for will be a little specific to her and her own wants and needs.  These little things are the details.   The devil is in the details and this is true with attracting women too.  You want to have a few ‘quirks’ that are different from your average guys.

A few small differences (details) make you interesting.  Pile on too many and you become “odd”.  It is a subtle but distinct difference.  A lot of your Little things make up the rules of instant sexual attraction.

6.  Being Handy: Women do like guys who can change their oil, fix their leaky pipes and all that “guy” stuff.  In our modern day-and-age many women can be quite handy too, but the ones who “are” handy will often not appreciate a guy who lacks even common handiness.  And of course the women who are not handy will appreciate a man who is for all the classic reasons.

7.  Being “decent” when no one is looking: It is a shame that this does not rank higher.  In -my mind- this should be the #1 thing that women SHOULD find attractive in men.  It is a simple fact that appearances are not always what they seem.  There are a ton of D-bags out there.  One classic way to separate the D-Bags (and Bitches) from the rest of the people is to pay attention when they think you are not.

How do you treat the people that don’t matter?  People that treat people they meet, that work for and with them, wait-staff and even bums on the street with contempt are only waiting to drop that shoe on others.  If you are the type of guy who constantly complains about everyone.  Some women will notice.  Unfortunately for those that treat their fellow mankind with courtesy most of the time, they won’t ALWAYS notice.

8. Drinking and Smoking: These are, of course, negatives.  Not positives.

This isn’t an episode of Mad Men.

I drink and I make no apologies for it.  I personally don’t mind smoking either.  But I am not a girl you are trying to attract.  Few women are really interested in a guy that easily gets sloshed or smokes like a chimney.  No judgements made, but both of these can hurt your chances with picking up women.  If you have these vices work on keeping them, “low-key.”

9.  Being well-Dressed: This really has a two fold approach.  It does not mean that you need to wear a 5,000$ Armani Suit to get the babes.  That simply is not true at all.  But what you wear should be quality and quality -can- cost money.  SO sometimes spending money on a nice wardrpbe can have a positive effect.

But more importantly it is style.  What your style is doesn’t matter.  What matters is that you do have a unique style and whatever it is represents you.  I am about as far as you can get from the “goth” scene as it is possible to be.  But I am willing to bet that the guys who get wholly into it and really learn to represent the style in a big way can do quite well with the women that like, “that thing”.

That is not to say you need to represent some crazy style though.  Peacocking isn’t for everyone.  It is important that whatever your ultimate style is that it represents something that makes you comfortable.  After all that leads us back to #1.  Confidence is the alpha and omega of attraction.

10. Someone who listens: Obviously, there is a fine line here.  You want her to be your girlfriend not your “girl” “friend”.  But you can use active listening to women as a means to also attract them.

The best part is that even the downside is not all bad.  Not one likes to end up a girls guy-friend.  But really if you understand it right having a girl of a “type” that you are attracted to as a close friends can be it’s own powerful tool to attract women.

Are you wondering what to say on the call after first date?

How long should you wait?

What should you say?

How did the date go?

Does she like you?

These thoughts understandably go through every guys mind.  In this article we are going to give you some tips for talking to a girl after your first date.

Hopefully you have studied the ways of Instant Sexual Attraction. If so chances are the date went well and it should be clear that calls are hopefully just a formality and she will already be interested.

After all the most efficient way to set-up that first date is to only weed out those women who simply are not right for you. (and vice versa).

The time from setting up the first date to some period after the second date is an important period in a relationship.  Things could easily go either way and even just a few “off” words could ruin your chances.  After a while you get to know each other and small things become less critical, but this period specifically has a lot tied to it.

Because of this importance I have talked about it quite a few times in some articles that may be of interest to anyone interested in the specifics of calling after the first date:

First Date Tips- Part I - General Tips, First date location ideas, First date rules, developing rapport

First Date Tips- Part II – What is “Next” on the first date, Making Things Sexual, Transitioning to a second date.

Second Date Tips- What to do on a second date, 2nd date etiquette, overcoming the second date, second date sex-talk, attraction on the second date

-But let’s get back to the point-

The call after first date can be very important. The date itself should should have prepared you for the call.  Did the two of you have a great time or were there awkward silences?  There is some stuff you can do to rescue a date that went badly with a call, but is it really worth it?

Most guys gather the information they need from a girl during the first date process.   That is sort of, “the point” of the first date: to see if you have basic compatability.

Some guys do totally fail to gather all of the information that they should have gathered when on the date, though.

Let’s look at some things that you should pay attention to and do during the date to make the call after first date a success.

• What is the girl’s personality?
• Does she like to joke a lot?
• Is she into smart guys?
• What does she like?
• What is she passionate about?
• Some basics on her family and friends
• What is her job.
• What are her interests?  (movies, books, TV, music?)

Understand her Passions. These should lead to her passions. Finding out what she is passionate about is key.

You should ask her some questions until she lights up and starts talking about something excitedly.  This is going to be one of her passions and you should pay close attention to what she is saying so that you will be able to hold a conversation with her about this matter at a later time.

You want to get this information on the first date.  Failing that, heopfully you can pull it out of her quickly in the phone call, but you may already be working from behind.

If you have gained knowledge of her passions, THAT is what you are going to want to talk about in your first phone conversation.  If you SHARE the passion, it is easy.  If not you should ask questions and be interested.  Steer the conversation, but give her free reign to cut loose.

She is going to be greatly impressed that you listened so well and are able to speak with her on the matter.

What about the thing YOU say? As the conversation progresses, and you are talking, you need to see what she responds to. Since you will not be able to see her responses over the phone you, once again the actual first date itself is the best time to guage these reactions and the call after the first date is just going of the data you have collected.

If you are telling a joke does she lean forward, laugh and push your arm or does she kind of sit there confused and wondering what in the world you could be talking about?

If she enjoys your joke in person then you know that you can be funny when you are on the phone and she is going to respond well to your jesting. If she does not respond well in person I wouldn’t suggest trying to pull a joke off over the phone since this is even more difficult.

Phones lack nuance, it is far harder to pull off subtlety.  If she didn’t “get” sarcasm face-to-face never attempt it over the phone.

When should you call her? Perhaps you have seen the classic scene from swingers where they talk about how long to wait before you call a girl.  There is “something’ to that, but it is also important to hammer some things home while the fire is hot.  Since there are good and bad reasons for waiting and not-waiting, the decision on when to call is up to you.

I wouldn’t wait longer than 3 days, but even a call as you drive away to teasingly say, “are you missing me yet” even though you only left her 30 seconds before can work.  (Of course that is figuring that she passed your “humor” test and will understand the little teasing).

There is one important part of this though.  Don’t be desperate.  Ever.  If you call and she doesn’t answer, leave a message and wait for her to call you.  At THIS point wait 2-3 days minimum before, “trying again”.  It is important that you do not seem desperate.

Never be the guy to call 7 times within 12 hours following the first date.

Prepare yourself: When you call her it is important that you get yourself ready. You need to have your confidence up and make sure that your voice is not going to crack and make you sound like a nervous little boy. You can build your confidence by knowing what you are going to say in the first five minutes.  If the conversation moves away from what you planned easily…let it.  But be ready to “lead” conversation for 5 minutes without her helping much.

Did you pay enough attention to her passion? If you see a TV spot, or read something or even find some news about that field you may call her and see if she has heard the latest news or wants to go to a certain event.  This is the perfect excuse and is a golden reason to call.

In fact you can force the issue by doing research and finding out if there is news on her passion.  This will make it very comfortable for you and for her because you will know that she is interested and she will be glad to hear about what she is passionate about.

Another great perk about talking to her about something that she is passionate about is that she will be able to carry a large part of the conversation. If you get her talking she will tell you her feelings and her dreams when it comes to her passion. She may even ask to set up another date to talk with you about it since you seem to be interested.

These are some simple things that will help you when it comes to the call after the first date.  Some of it is about impressing the girl on the phone, Some of it is about planting and watering the seeds of attraction.

There is no reason that you should strike out when you follow the guide above and you will be able to have a fun and interesting conversation.  A good call after the first date will deepen her positive feelings and set the stage for a great second date and possibly even a relationship.

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What to do on a first date with a girl can be confusing. Girls have all of those different magazines that tell them what to think about men, which guys to avoid and how to sniff out a loser. You want to make sure that you are not one of the losers so you are trying to figure out where to go, what to do and how long your date should be etc. Let’s now go on to look at some tips that will help your first date become a success.

First Date Tips- Part I - General Tips, First date location ideas, First date rules, developing rapport

First Date Tips- Part II – What is “Next” on the first date, Making Things Sexual, Transitioning to a second date.

Calling After the First Date? -  Should you call after a first date?  If so, how long should you wait?  And what are you going to say?

Having the Perfect First Date-  What are the steops to make that “average” first date…Perfect?

Second Date Tips- What to do on a second date, 2nd date etiquette, overcoming the second date, second date sex-talk, attraction on the second date

Instant Sexual Attraction- Our free EBook goes over many of the things a guy can do to get that initial attraction from a woman that should make her irresistibly attracted to you.  It is not magic.  It is simply understanding the psychology of women, and knowing a few of the important things that will attract her to you.

Pandora’s Box- Okay, this system of attraction tells you nothing about first dates directly.  What it does is give you a championship way to really inderstand the woman you are trying to attract.  The system works at its peak when you really have a specific woman in mind.

The first thing that you need to do is pick a location. If you are on a first date you should not go somewhere that is too fancy. If you take her to some sort of fancy restaurant the date may seem long and drawn out because the food takes a long time and conversation may be strained. You need to pick something that will allow you to talk but won’t take a long time. You may want to try something like mini golf, a nice restaurant which is known for its quick service, etc.

When you meet the girl you need to make sure that you know what you are going to say within the first five minutes. Make sure that you don’t sound too scripted but you do not want to start the date off wrong by having nothing to say to each other. If the conversation happens to move in another way then you won’t need to use what you had rehearsed but just in case this will make you much more comfortable.

Another thing you should make sure that you do is give the girl a nice compliment. You shouldn’t say something like, “you look hot” or “man that’s a tight dress.” You should try a compliment like “I like your earrings” or “you look very pretty.” These are sure to get a smile out of her.

During the date you should watch your date and see her body language. You will be able to tell if she is nervous, ready to leave, happy with the date, etc.

If your date is fidgeting and looking around the room she could either be nervous or she could be ready to get out of there because the date is going sour. Either way you need to make sure that you change the way that she is feeling pretty quickly. What should you do about it? Get her talking about something she is passionate about. Does she like horses? Maybe she is interested in art? Once you get her talking about something that she is passionate about she is going to relax and the conversation is going to flow nicely.

Besides for this taking a lot of weight off your shoulders and making her more comfortable, when she talks to you about something she is passionate about it will make her think with the emotional side of her brain instead of the logical side. When she is thinking with the emotional side of her brain this will allow her to connect the positive feelings she has about her passion with you.

These are some easy pointers on what to do on a first date with a girl. If you follow these tips you should have great success and will be able to say that your date went well. You should be able to easily get a second date with this girl as well.

Flirty questions to ask girls can be something that is very tricky. If you do not do it properly you may find yourself confused and worried about what you are going to do if you get the wrong reaction. You should keep to a few safe things without sounding like you are too cheesy. Another thing that you have to think about as well is how you deliver these questions. How you deliver these flirty questions to ask girls will make all the difference of how she reacts.

You may have heard some questions like “Did you fall from Heaven because I think you’re an angel?” or “Can I check your tag? I bet it says made in Heaven.” These are really lines that guys use but most of the time unless the girl is really desperate they will fail miserably.

Some lines that you may want to try depending on your situation: “Do you come here often? I’ve been here quite a few times and I am sure I would have noticed you if you’ve been here before.” or you may want to try “Do you have a boyfriend? If you do, he’s one lucky guy.”

These types of flirty questions to ask girls can really come in handy are likely to get a great reaction from women that are interested in finding a relationship.

There are a few other things that you should think about when you are speaking with women however. You can’t just depend on your cute little questions to work your way into her heart. It is important that you have the right attitude and confidence when you are speaking to a woman.

Women can tell is a man is insecure from a mile away. If you are insecure then you need to work on gaining your composure in the mirror and notice the telltale signs of insecurity that are on your face and in your body language and work to get away from those.

Your posture is something that is very important. You need to make sure that your shoulders are back and your head is up. If your shoulders are slumped and your head is done you look like a cowering puppy and while puppies are cute women do not like to date puppy dogs.

When you walk into a room you should not slink in and try to approach unnoticed. You should enter the room, survey the crowd and find the person or people that you want to go talk to. When you find the people you should get right into the conversation and not stand out around the outskirts like some sort of outsider.

If you are able to start talking to the girl that you are interested in pretty quickly you should look her in the eyes but not stare. You should pay close attention to what she is saying and you should also pay attention to her body language. If you watch her body language you will be able to see if she is interested or if you should move the conversation in another direction. Get her talking about her passions and she is going to be much more likely to speak with you for a long period of time.