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Calling Out a Woman's Flaky or Boring Behavior
Conversations with woman are about having fun and
building comfort. In fact, when you initially approach a
woman, your goal is to progress from being a perfect
stranger to making a deep connection.
The problem is you’ll often encounter a situation where
a girl is not being helpful with the questions you ask
her. Whether she’s being deliberately cold because you
haven’t built enough attraction or because she’s a
boring person, YOU have to know how to handle the
conversation when it starts going south.
First off, if a woman is being cold and unresponsive to
your questions, this means you haven’t built enough
attraction to get past her Bitch Shield. If that’s the
case, STOP asking questions and concentrate on
demonstrating high status.
On the other hand, if you know you built attraction and
you received a few IOIs, then you might have to call out
her boring behavior.
For instance, say you’re trying to build rapport and
find out more about her, you would say something like:
“What do you do for fun?”
If you get a bland answer, like “Nothing much” or “I
don’t know…”, then you have to take control of the
conversation. Typically guys flounder when something
like this happens. When they ask a question and get a
blank response, they often say a few things that
destroys any chance of attraction.
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For instance, here’s how the
average guy acts in a situation like this:
YOU: “So what do you like to do for fun?”
Her: “Not much, I guess”
YOU: “Oh ok. Do you like to travel?”
Her: “I guess…sometimes.”
YOU: “Oh ok. What type of job do you have?”
HER: “Accounting”
Right here, you can imagine how this conversation will
go NOWHERE. By asking a series of boring questions like
this, you’ve been sucked into her boring, unresponsive
world.
What I recommend is to something a little different. If
a woman gives you a boring answer, IMMEDIATELY address
this answer and do a little bantering. In essence,
you’re calling a girl out because she’s not helping you
in the conversation. So let’s work on the example from
before:
YOU: “So what do you like to do for fun?”
Her: “Not much, I guess”
YOU: “Wow…are you always this exciting? ” [Say
with a smile]
Her: *Startled* “Ummm…no of course not. Ok, I
guess I like to …”
This is one of those techniques which seems
counterintuitive at first. Women are used to men who say
only nice things. They’re not used to guys who present a
little bit of a challenge.
So if you’re ever in a situation where you get one word
or terse responses, then start calling out her boring
behavior. If you do this with a smile and let her know
that you’re not treating her like a child, you can
easily turn a boring conversation into one that’s
exciting.
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