Bragging is NOT What Women Find Attractive
There is some confusion
about using stories to create attraction. The other day,
I had a reader I received an email from a reader where
complained about women accusing him of being a braggart
when he told his stories. After asking a few questions,
I came to the conclusion that the WAY he was telling
stories was negatively affecting the opinions women had
of him.
Stories are about demonstrating high status. They’re
specifically designed to showcase the positive qualities
you have WITHOUT resorting to bragging about your
accomplishments. The problem is there’s a fine line
between talking about your past and bragging. While it's
important to be confident, it's crucial that you never
appear TOO full of yourself.
Here's why...
Here is the RIGHT Way to Talk to Women...
A lot of guys think women will be
impressed by a guy with lots of money or a powerful job.
While it’s true that many women are attracted to these
qualities, you should never come right out and discuss
how great you are.
That’s why stories are so useful. When you craft a
story, you want to talk about the successes in your
life, WITHOUT bragging. The key here is to IMPLY that
you’re a great person, while not coming out and saying
it.
For instance, the traits that women find most attractive
are health, wealth, adventure, status, leadership,
social intuition, preselection by women, humor, and
challenge. No matter what type of life you live, you can
probably craft a few great stories that demonstrate
these qualities. But to avoid bragging, you want to
structure them in a way that doesn’t make it seem like
you’re full of yourself.
Here’s an example. One of the qualities I like to
emphasize is my healthy and adventurous lifestyle. As
part of that, I like to run marathons in different parts
of the country. Now if I simply start bragging about how
I’ve run all these races, I’ll end up boring OR annoying
women.
Rather then doing that, I introduce my healthy lifestyle
through a story about a race I ran in a place called
“The Valley of Fire”. Instead of talking about myself, I
structure the story where I mention the amazing scenery
and huge Tarantulas that I saw running across the road.
In my humble opinion, I think this story helps me
demonstrate qualities like health, adventure, and
excitement. And all of this is done without resorting to
bragging.
So the next time you’re talking to a woman, think of
what you’re saying to her. Rather then talking about
your accomplishments, try using a story that’ll help you
mention your positive qualities WITHOUT bragging.
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